Don't be on your own. Pick up the phone.
Supporting family, friends and carers affected by someone else’s drug or alcohol misuse
At DrugFAM we understand the difficulties of living with or caring for someone who uses drugs or alcohol and how easily family, friends and carers can find themselves in a position of disempowerment and crisis. We also know how physically and emotionally exhausting this can be, especially when someone seems intent on self-destruction. DrugFAM believes that the families, friends and carers of people who use drugs and alcohol need support in their own right, both to cope with impact of drug and alcohol using behaviour and with how best to help someone who has lost control of their drinking or drug use.
Our aim is to help families, friends and carers find ways of coping better with their situations, so they can start to regain control of their lives and look after their own well-being.
This is achieved through focusing on the changes which can be made to help improve the situation with the person who uses and most importantly for the family member’s well-being. During one-to-one sessions families, friends and carers learn how put boundaries in place and follow through on the agreed consequences when these are broken; remain consistent; and consider how their own behaviours and actions may impact on the situation. There is also a focus on healthier ways to communicate, which may reduce confrontation with the person who uses. Lastly, consideration is given to how someone can take better care of themselves at such a stressful, difficult and painful time.
Remember the Seven C's
I didn't CAUSE it.
I can't CURE it.
I can't CONTROL it.
I can help take CARE of myself by COMMUNICATING my feelings.
Making healthy CHOICES, and CONTINUING to live my own life.
You can access support in a number of ways:
Call our helpline – 0300 888 3853
The helpline is available between 9am and 9pm seven days a week. Many of our clients feel a huge sense of relief at being able to talk to our trained support team and realise that they no longer have to cope on their own.
Sometimes picking up the phone can feel too difficult so sending an email can be a good way of getting in touch with us. Some clients prefer communicating via email as it gives them a structured way of organising their thoughts and processing their feelings. Please click here to send us a message
Email, phone and zoom meeting support. Normally, pre COVID 19, if you are based near our office in High Wycombe we are happy to meet you for a chat. You can simply call us to arrange a time. However, we have moved all our one to one communication onto Zoom for the time being.
Attend one of our support groups
Pre COVID we ran a number of support groups in the South East and in Peterborough. The groups are led by two trained facilitators, are free of charge and a great way to meet others who are going through similar experiences to you. This can often lead to a lessening of the feeling of isolation. Please note that all of our groups are currently being run online/virtually indefinitely. Please contact firstname.lastname@example.org to find out how to join. You will be made most welcome and can be reassured of safety and confidentiality at all times.
Details of our groups are listed below:
|WITNEY, OXFORDSHIRE||Mondays, 18:20 – 20.20|
|PETERBOROUGH, CAMBRIDGESHIRE||Mondays, 19.00 – 20.30|
|SWALLOWFIELD, BERKSHIRE||Mondays, 19.30 – 21.30|
Alternate Tuesdays, 19.00 – 20.30
Operating until 15th Dec 2020. From Jan 2021 Borehamwood will become DrugFAM’s second national group warmly embracing all current clients but extending its reach to clients who need us across the UK.
|HIGH WYCOMBE, BUCKINGHAMSHIRE||Thursdays, 19.00 – 21.00|
|VIRTUAL/ONLINE GROUP||Thursdays, 19.00 – 21.00|
|SANDHURST, BERKSHIRE||Sundays, 10.30am – 12.00pm|
Due to Covid-19, all groups are currently being run virtually. Please email us at email@example.com to find out how to join.